I Had an E-Mail Conversation With an Incredible Human Being.
- I’m always fascinated by brilliant and amazing minds.
- I’m even more amazed when they are connected with wonderful hearts and caring spirits.
- I’m even more impacted when they are accompanied with solid action and accomplishment.
The person that I was communicating with had all of that and more.
- A brilliant mind
- A wonderful heart
- A world-class achiever.
Even better, this person was a joy to be with.
This brilliant, wonderful, warm-hearted achiever wrote …
“One thing I do love about you, Ken — you are SO very real!
Your honesty, and your commitment to follow up with your word with me is so refreshing.”
To which I replied …
Honesty is an “interesting” subject.
Some folks would tell you the amiable people are the biggest liars.
I don’t find it necessary to say cutting things to “fix” people, so maybe that is a form of dishonesty.
What I am is open – at least to the extent that the people close to me can accept.
I’ve tried to learn not to try to represent myself as something bigger or better than I am.
In a business like marketing that’s a tough one at times.
Sure, I want to put my best foot forward, but I’d like to do it with as much integrity and with as little arrogance as possible.
I try not to force my open book life or honesty on anyone.
I want people to respect me and to know that I honestly care about them. But, even more I want to make a real difference.
I know that I have a lot to offer people, but I’m always searching for the best ways to help the most.
It’s easy for a person who loves being loved as much as I do, to hold on, when they should let go.
For example, I stepped in as a director of music at a nearby church when they desperately needed someone to come into a tough situation.
I was the perfect person for a situation where there were lots of potential conflicts and I grew the music program into a huge success.
Over the course of a decade, I began to be drawn into other areas, my book was published and lots was going on.
I should have left at the top of my game, but for somewhat selfish reasons I stuck around to keep my hand in music and when I finally left, I realized how little it mattered to the people.
They didn’t even realize it, but they were eager for a fresh start.
I really hadn’t been there for them in the last couple of years.
I was marking time and even though they would never have told me and possibly didn’t even know it – I needed to move on.
I never want to be marking time, and others may not tell me when I am, so that requires me to be honest with myself.
With my remaining years, I want to be excited about being where I can help the most, doing what needs to be done and making small differences in as many lives as I can.
Honesty is a two-edged sword.
- Not everyone wants you to be honest, even when they say they do.
- Some people use honesty as a weapon.
- Some people think honesty has more to do with intent.
It’s like the difference between persuasion and manipulation.
We all need to persuade and manipulation is powered with the same tactics and techniques, but the intent is different.
I have the intent to be honest and open. Many times I fall short.
There are lots of things that I don’t tell you about.
- I don’t see the value in spreading what I see as “poison” — like the negative comments that I hear about many of my friends.
- I always try to keep the confidences of people who confide in me.
- I try not to use truth as a weapon on anyone.
When you wonder what the truth is …
I hope you’ll feel my intent, come to me directly and ask whatever you want to know.
I’ll try to be as open and honest as I can.
All the best,
Ken McArthur
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